@MeaganGood covers the February 2012 issue of Vibe Vixen magazine…You can read some excerpts below.
You know, I’ve definitely had a first love and a second love. [Laughs] I’ve definitely been very much in love more than once, but I really value myself too. I try not to lose myself in the relationship. I think when you start to compromise yourself, that’s when you get married. That’s what that’s appropriate for. I think it’s good to compromise in general in relationships, but I don’t believe that you should compromise yourself fully until you’re partnering with someone on that marriage level.
On if she ever gets fed up with men and their games:
I’ve been fortunate enough to be able to play the game like the boys do. By the grace of God, I haven’t had a whole lot of bad luck, but it’s because I’ve been so guarded. I really just try to keep God first, so that’s kept me out of a lot of pit holes. There’s nothing that I’ve really done that I regret. I’ve made maybe one mistake that I could [handled] differently, but that’s pretty good for being 30 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 19, so I feel pretty confident that I’ve done well in my relationships. I really haven’t had to play the games because, with the guys, my mom made me so abreast to what’s going on that I was able to bypass a lot of BS.
On double standards and women valuing their bodies:
One thing I don’t like is the mentality that’s kind of evolved in the last 10 years. I know there’s a double standard when it comes to men and women, in terms of how they go into relationships. You know, guys can hook up with whoever they want and they’re just guys. Girls hook up with whoever they want and they’re H-O’s. That’s always bothered me, but one thing I’ve learned over time is that we are women. Ultimately, when it comes to sex, the anatomy [of a guy makes us] the submissive ones to a certain degree. And I think that women need to value their bodies more and value what they allow and who they allow to do that to them. I think that’s the one thing that I don’t like that’s kind of been redefined in the last couple of years. It’s this 20th century woman who can do things like a man, and I think, from a business standpoint, sure, but when it comes to physically, I think that we should value ourselves more.
On what she’s beginning to learn from her younger self, now that she’s reached her 30s:
Oh, gosh, so much. I learned that I need to really keep my eye on the prize which is God and not worry so much about what other people think of me. And if I keep my eye on the prize, people will think what they need to think of me, good or bad. I’ve learned to love myself more. I’ve learned to really be okay with any imperfection that I have physically. I’ve learned to forgive myself for any mistakes I’ve made. I’ve learned to love other people for who they are. I’ve learned to accept people for who they are. I’ve learned more about what my purpose is and what I’m most passionate about. Definitely for me, I think 30 has really been life-changing, as far as how I perceive the world and how I perceive those around me and how I perceive myself. I’ve never had so much peace of mind, and I’ve never been so overly confident and I’ve never been so content with the journey. And I just feel good.
